Saturday, May 30, 2015

Day 67 Understanding Consent

A few days ago I saw this video by Blue Seat Studios in collaboration with RockstarDinosaurPiratePrincess. (You have to love the inventive naming side effect of the internet) The video is designed to explain when a person is, or isn't, giving their consent in a sexual situation.

In today's world there are a lot of mixed messages and sometimes things that should be simple to understand become very complicated. We are, after all, humans and we like to make things more complicated then necessary. Just try to figure health care or the legal system and you will see what I mean.

The concept of consent really shouldn't be that hard to understand. While this video was created with sexual situations in mind, it could also be applied to any situation where one person wants another person to do something or participate. As you watch the video you could replace the word "tea" with "go to the movies", or "rub your back" or "try this pill."

The hardest part for some people is that once you say yes to tea, they assume you will always say yes. In this case "tea" is anything from a hug (not always appropriate) to some other type of physical contact done in public. I've seen people yell out, the now popular phrase, "Safe, sane and consensual" or "I have consent" while they do something that the receiver is obviously uncomfortable with. It's not a question to the receiver, it's more like a proclamation to justify what they are doing. Like they are reminding the receiver that it was permitted previously so it's OK for them to just do it again. It makes for a very uncomfortable situation for everyone.

Please watch the movie and think about how you interact with people.